Thursday, January 13, 2011

New beginnings...

...new year...new look...new beginning...or at least an attempt...hope this works...(fingers crossed)...
Recently I read a very interesting article, well I am not actually sure if it counts as an actual 'article' as it was the Elle Magazine Editor's Letter, but it was interesting nonetheless...in it, editor Roberta Myers, discusses the West's obsession (not her words) with self-help guides, new-years resolutions and our constant quest for something bigger and better in order to achieve the ultimate prize: happiness...as she put it, "happiness seems to be what we fear most" and as we know, "it comes in so many different guises:" from thinking about our weight, jobs, school, finances, what we lack etc. What's more, it is seemingly difficult to escape unhapinesses' potential and perpetual shadow...This seems to be especially the case right now, in January...as we begin a new calendar year, and embark on yet another new quest for happiness with ourselves...Her analysis, however, got me thinking...about my own resolutions and about my own quest for happiness and I realized 2 things: #1 all of my NY resolutions were about the proverbial quest to be happy and #2 all of my NY resolutions were about me...I can say with confidence, that mine is not an isolated case, how many of my friends and colleagues have made the exact same resolutions? Most, if not all...Now, I'm not saying that there is anything wrong with trying to better oneself, whether it be physically or emotionally, but it seems ironic somehow given that a fairly large body of research suggests that "one of the best ways to feel good about yourself is to give to others"...not to mention that Buddhist and other religious philosophy teaches us that achieving happiness is essentially hard and self-less work...hmmmm...perhaps our "ME" generation, one that is characterized by instant gratification and raising one's own self-esteem, is constantly on the look-out for happiness precisely for that reason, because we constantly look for happiness from self-improvement and instant gratification...perhaps, it is not only about "me" but also about about others, and perhaps (as cheesy as this may sound) happiness isn't a destination but a journey we make while we better ourselves, and others around us...so this year (and I promise this is the last NY resolution post of this year!) as much as I will attempt to cling on to the resolutions I made for myself, I will also add something for others...in the mean time I will try to remind myself that happiness~true happiness~ like everything else worth having, takes a bit of hard work and isn't necessarily instantaneous...
Let me know what you are all planning for the new year...and may you all find the happiness we all strive so much for...
To echo Roberta Myers' words:
"While I am not convinced that happiness per se is the meaning of life, I do admire our collective striving, our deep faith that we try hard enough, we can fix our world and ourselves, enough to thrive..."
~Elle, January 2011

Love K

1 comment:

Ashelle said...

It makes sense that happiness is something that needs to be worked on. Also, the importance of giving to others to feel happiness. I think you are very wise and have a better handle on yourself & the human emotions than most people. The Buddhist religion/belief is very inspiring. I've read many books on it but for some reason cannot put what I've learned into practice. But I'm guessing it will all come in time, experience & hard work.

PS: I do really like your new layout.

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